There were days when my kids were still at home that I would find myself ready to bolt as soon as my husband got home from work. We all dream of being the perfect mom when we first hold our babies in our arms but those feelings of confidence can quickly disappear the first time we get stressed because we can’t stop the crying or when we realize that a good nights sleep is something we may never experience again.
Nine months ago I was planning a trip out west to help my son and his wife with their little ones while they went to the hospital to have their 3rd baby. Was I beyond excited? Yes! Was I ready to go? Not really. There was so much I would need to do to be ready to take care of their two older children ages 4 and 1 1/2 so I knew I needed to be prepared. I knew that from minute to minute my attention would be pulled from one thing to another so I needed something that would help me to hold their attention and corral them when I needed to. How was I going to do it? With a playlist.
One of the cool things about being a grandparent is that you get an opportunity to redo, undo or make right the things you messed up when you were raising their parents. If I were a brave person I would ask my kiddos what they think I messed up or where I went wrong when I was raising them but because I am happy with our relationships the way they are right now, I’m going to keep my yapper shut.
What do your grand kids know about you? I have been thinking about this lately because my two older grandsons that are 4 and 3 years old are getting big enough for me to start having some great conversations with them and I am excited about it. I want to tell them about some of the things I think they should know about me – like what is important to me and what I have learned during my life that I think might help them.
When I was a young mom with 4 kids under the age of 9, my mother used to tell me on a regular basis that if I was feeling overwhelmed or stressed that I should take a break from mothering. Of all the advice she gave me over the years, this piece I didn’t appreciate and I frankly didn’t agree with. Honestly. She knew how much I had longed to be a mother my whole life. Motherhood was the most important thing to me but if I was making a habit of taking a break every time I felt like I needed one, how good of a mother was I going to be?
One of the hardest things I have ever experienced in my life is to grieve the loss of a loved one. When will I feel peace again? When will I start to feel better? I don’t wish this on anyone but no matter who you are or how much money you have, at some point you are going to be faced with this life event and it is going to be difficult. How can you begin to heal and move on after this happens to someone you love? How do you go on?
If you are a parent you know that you have certain responsibilities that you have to do every day to care of your kids. For example, you have to make sure that your kids get the proper nutrition to grow physically and mentally so you feed them 3 times a day. You also have to clothe them, bathe them, keep them safe, provide a home for them and much much more. Along with all of these important jobs you have there is one other task you must do that is as vital to your child’s physical and mental development as food is but we don’t necessarily think it is something we should need to do every day. Reading, my friends. Are you reading with your kids? I don’t mean telling them to read, I mean actually sitting down with them and reading a book.
I HATE stress and I really don’t like a dirty house but isn’t it funny how sometimes the two go together? This time of year can be so stressful and moms can feel overwhelmed with all the things that are going on every day. Did you know that there are 5 chores your kids can help with that will make things easier on you and make home-time more enjoyable for everyone? It doesn’t matter how big your family is or how old each family member is – every person can do things during the day that will help maintain a stress-free home. Why should you be doing all the work?
Since my husband and I have had such a fun summer visiting all of our grandkids, I decided to write a few posts on ideas of things you can do with your boy or your girl to get to know them a little better and give them the opportunity to know you too on a more personal level. This is so important to their development and whether you know it or not, they WANT to know you. You might be that old person they see and hear from every once in a while but you matter to them!
They told me my child would never make it through 1st grade. Can you believe it? The kindergarten teacher, the principal and the Chapter One teacher at my children’s elementary school sat down with me and tried to convince me that my 5 year old that could read words but could not read complete sentences near the end of his kindergarten year, would struggle for the rest of his days and never amount to much. Yes, they did say that very phrase and it was horrible. He was doomed unless of course, I signed the papers and let them test him for the Federally Funded Chapter One Program. Ha! That was NEVER going to happen because this mom knew what was up. Why? Because Moms got his back.
This summer my husband and I were planning a trip to visit one of our sons and his family in the mid-west and we knew that we had to make the most of our time with the kids so the first thing we did was to start thinking of some fun things that we could do with them. Let’s face it, when your kids are 3 and 1 year olds, their attention spans are out of control! What better way to keep their engaged and build some great memories with them than to celebrate their birthday’s – even if their birthday has already passed. We are grandparents so we can do whatever we want!
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